Perspective

Perspective

This has been a common thread amongst many a conversation had!

How is it that a person can be prouder of his work than his family?

Is it because he feels a stronger sense of accomplishment with his work than his family?

Is it because he feels it is much harder to run a successful business than a successful family? Is it in their minds, that "anyone" can produce a family, so it is not all that special?

Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary defines "special" as:
1: distinguished by some unusual quality; especially : being in some way superior
2: held in particular esteem a special friend
3 a: readily distinguishable from others of the same category: unique they set it apart as a special day of thanksgiving b: of, relating to, or constituting a species: specific
4: being other than the usual: additional, extra
5: designed for a particular purpose or occasion


Is this what men (and some women) are searching for the recognition of being special?

It appears it come down to a self esteem issue?

So why would a person have a lack of self esteem around their family?
Do they not feel worthy?
Do they feel insecure with success in their family?
Or is it simply they see the results of their work and it means more?


It all comes down to ones perspective!

Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary defines "perspective" as 2 a: the interrelation in which a subject or its parts are mentally viewed ; also : point of view b: the capacity to view things in their true relations or relative importance

Would it be that we need to stop and take a new perspective on our families, husbands, wives and friends?

Enjoy your new perspective.

I am!

Change

Being present enough to be aware, creates the road for change.

Change comes from within, and only with acknowledgement, through awareness and presence!

"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." Anais Nin

Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary definition states change as: "to undergo transformation, transition, or substitution."

I ask you to observe what needs to change in your life.

Is it something internally or something external that needs to change?

Is it a thought, a feeling and emotion?

Usually the external is something in suffice of something internal.

I challenge you to be present with what needs changing, be aware of how you feel about it. Acknowledge it! You owe it to yourself, your children and your partner!

Watch the world become a more peaceful and fun place to live!


"Never part with your dreams. When they're gone, you might still exist, but you cease to live "


Are YOU subconscoiuly ceasing to LIVE!!!!!??????

An interesting concept is to create a shift and live your dreams, rather than cease to live!


Enjoy living your dreams!

I am!

Acknowledgement!

In order for a situation to change you need acknowledgement of that which you became
aware of, which required your prescence!

The Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary states the definition of acknowledge as: to take notice of or to make known the receipt of .

I had an interesting experience with this Thursday!

I took the children to the park and our adventurous son decided he would jump from place to place. Well sure enough he falls and bumps his knee and creates a pretty good boo boo! I remember thinking to myself if he keeps crying, if it swells than we will get it checked out! It was a fleeing thought, but there none the less, so we carry on our fun! Sure enough after his nap he woke up very cranky and would not stop crying while he was clutching his knee! Acknowledgement time!!!!! I had to acknowledge the need for "action". So I scoped him up and off we went to Dr. L's, we x-rayed it, no fracture! Yeah, We enzyme iced it and iced it and within an hour of returning home he was walking on it again!

We applied several more applications of Enzyme ice and ice packs and Friday morning I awoke to "mommy, my knee is happy again". I was glad to hear this!

What was interesting is that as soon as I acknowledged the need for action, something shifted! I felt it! I cannot explain it! The action, trigger healing in him!

I wonder how many parents if they just acknowledged what ever they or their child was going through would just heal itself?

I often wonder how many health issues occur because of a lack of awareness and a lack of acknowledgement? How much would clear up by people being honest with themselves?

I challenge you, what in your life keeps cropping up that you need to stop and be more aware of and finally acknowledge? Is it an action, a feeling, an emotion, a situation, a person, what is it?

Acknowledging a thorn in your side or a happy moment is a powerful thing!

Enjoy the peace and calm feeling that comes from acknowledgement!

Awareness

"AWARENESS"

The definition of awareness as stated by the Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary is
"having or showing realization, perception, or knowledge"

Without awareness how can "anything" small or big change?

Just like my awareness of me not being present for my husband and vice versa.
In being "aware" both of us are able to be present with each other, we can alter our behaviour!

How powerful is the awareness of being "aware"!

Let me ask you this:

"What within ourselves do you we need to be aware of?"

Do we need to be aware of fear, threat, phobia, impediment, judgement, sadness, anger?

To be aware we need knowledge, knowledge of something we are doing or something we are not.

To gain knowledge is to stop long enough to take the information in, digest it and agree on an outcome of change!

Change comes from within, and only through awareness!

What is it that you need to be more "aware" of in your life, yourself?

Did you make a point of being aware of what your spouse, children did or didn't do today? Did you compliment them or tear them down? Did you engage them in prescence or no prescence?

I challenge you to be more aware of yourself, your children and your partner and watch the world become a more peaceful and fun place to live!


Enjoy this new awareness of yourself and others!

Being Present

This blog is being created from my observations and hingsight into life, universe and everything.

From studying as a mature student, married to divorced to married again. Two pregnancy's with two wonderful children, with two businesses, oh and did I mention living in a foreign country!

So I ask of you this, please do not judge my observations and lessons, but instead reveal in the discoveries I have found and do they bless you and help you to find what you need to solve with that which you find yourself pondering on.

I am ready, are you?


BEING PRESENT

To some being present means sitting at the kitchen table with the family, reading a magazine! Observation to the one not reading the magazine - this is not being present! It is present with the magazine but not the family.

To be present means to be focused solely on that which is in front of you!

Now, you may or may not want to be present, it is a choice! No is an acceptable answer, but the problem arises when you pretend to be present when are you not. Hence the observation above.

Some people have a much easier time being present and there are some people who have a very hard time being present! I am a 9, 9's are known for the ability for the here and now! My husband is a 4! 4's re renowned for living in fantasy and have a hard time being present! Interesting quandary we have. He is teaching me to let go and dream and I am teaching him that is safe to be present with what you are doing!

If you are interested in the 9 and 4 thing go to www.9types.com and take the test to see what number you are! It is very insightful!

Observation and lesson 1
Pregnancy allows women access to not be present on anyone else accept themselves and the child. This is not an attack but an honest observation of myself. I withdrew into a place I had never been while pregnant with both my children. I was so consumed by the wonder of growing these two blessed beings, that being present with anything else was hard in hindsight. I had neglected my husbands need for being present with him and also mine. I taught my husband to not be present with me! Have you done the same with your partner?

The same goes with yourself and your children. What do you do to be present with yourself? If you are unable to answer this you need to start here! How can you be present with another person if you aren't able to present with yourself?

Observation and lesson 2
Being present with my children. I was asked to help a friend with her parenting video that she was making. We had to contrive several senarios and one was not being present. We were to off in la la land while the child was wanting our attention. The whole point to this exercise was to watch the childs behavorial response to this! I was intrigued by the outcome! It was not something I had associted with bad behaviour before. Not all bad behaviour is not being present, however, if you stop and observe, you will see how much of it actually is!

This is an amazing tool for parents, go and buy it www.readymethod.com

Observation and lesson 3
Being present means to us as a married couple that we put time aside to love and be intimate with each other, be present with each other. This can be a game of cards, a walk or time under the sheets!

My observation is the act of actually and truly being present, is what is lacking from many relationships. We have forgotten how, or got caught up in the hurts of life.

I ask you to observe your relationships; do you and your partner spend time being present with each other?

I challenge you to be present with yourself, your children and your partner and watch the world become a more peaceful and fun place to live!

Enjoy your new prescence!